Honestly, I wish people would just admit that they hate on the things they know they should likely be doing - but don’t - or can’t (for whatever reason). It’s easier to relate to and defend an overweight, poor mom than it is a middle-class, Utah tradwife who makes her own bread.
Being a new-ish mama at 17 months postpartum, who also works a 9-5 job, this is something I think about on a daily basis and try to find a realistic middle ground on.
My daughter has eczema as well as several food allergies (peanuts, tree nuts, milk protein, eggs) so shopping for her is very restrictive to begin with. On top of that, I buy mostly organic. I spend a ton of time reading labels, using apps like Yuka, and diving into research on all things clean, non-toxic, etc as much as I can.
But, *gasp* she occasionally has chicken tenders and fries for dinner, too.
It's a shame that the internet, and social media in particular, can sometimes bring out the worst in people. Instead of opening their minds to something different, something new, they lash out. It reminds me of how when someone dares to post weight loss transformation photos, they are often instantly accused of fatphobia, because they bring to light an uncomfortable truth.
Meanwhile donut mom is taking the power out of criticizing her by showcasing the worst parts of her parenting style with an aggressive, idgaf attitude. The point is she doesn't care. There's no point in critiquing someone who doesn't care. "Fed is best" is kind of an ironic little jab because she is visibly disinterested in doing what is best.
It’s wild to me that people hate on her for making her children’s food from scratch. In many parts of the world that’s what people do! I think your point about the US not really having food traditions and our messed up food landscape are really spot on. We tend to think it’s normal but it’s not.
I think people are reacting to an overall style and tone with Nara's content. She wears a loooooot of makeup and she never smiles. I genuinely find it way too creepy. If you scroll through her videos you start to get a picture of a woman who who actually really loves food which is great but every individual video reads as totally joyless to me.
I don't think it is absurd to assume that someone is saying something about appearence and duty when they clearly spend hours obsessing over their appearence and do not crack a smile.
With the tradwife, I feel incredulous that she has her shit so together at 22 that she even knows how to make her own cheese in the first place, because I myself could barely scramble an egg at that point in life. I also wonder how much attention and love her children actually get as the stuff she does feels either labour intensive or detached, and neither scream "I am meeting my children's emotional needs." Saying that, there's nothing wrong with her making her own food, and her children will be getting a good start in life nutritionally speaking, which you have to respect on some level
Donut mum... Donut mum goes too far for me. Sure, we all have days when we give our kids food we probably shouldn't, but the way she presents it feels like her message is that this is what she does all the time, which isn't a good thing to promote. Her attitude is upsetting to me, not because I'm jealous - as I know some of the commenters suggest anyone that doesn't like her style is - but because I can't fathom the IDGAF attitude in relation to her children's health. I don't think it's something that should be applauded, and it's saddening to see so many people acting like she's done us all a favour by showing 'the reality.'
Honestly, I wish people would just admit that they hate on the things they know they should likely be doing - but don’t - or can’t (for whatever reason). It’s easier to relate to and defend an overweight, poor mom than it is a middle-class, Utah tradwife who makes her own bread.
Being a new-ish mama at 17 months postpartum, who also works a 9-5 job, this is something I think about on a daily basis and try to find a realistic middle ground on.
My daughter has eczema as well as several food allergies (peanuts, tree nuts, milk protein, eggs) so shopping for her is very restrictive to begin with. On top of that, I buy mostly organic. I spend a ton of time reading labels, using apps like Yuka, and diving into research on all things clean, non-toxic, etc as much as I can.
But, *gasp* she occasionally has chicken tenders and fries for dinner, too.
It's a shame that the internet, and social media in particular, can sometimes bring out the worst in people. Instead of opening their minds to something different, something new, they lash out. It reminds me of how when someone dares to post weight loss transformation photos, they are often instantly accused of fatphobia, because they bring to light an uncomfortable truth.
As they say, a hit dog will holler.
Meanwhile donut mom is taking the power out of criticizing her by showcasing the worst parts of her parenting style with an aggressive, idgaf attitude. The point is she doesn't care. There's no point in critiquing someone who doesn't care. "Fed is best" is kind of an ironic little jab because she is visibly disinterested in doing what is best.
It’s wild to me that people hate on her for making her children’s food from scratch. In many parts of the world that’s what people do! I think your point about the US not really having food traditions and our messed up food landscape are really spot on. We tend to think it’s normal but it’s not.
I think people are reacting to an overall style and tone with Nara's content. She wears a loooooot of makeup and she never smiles. I genuinely find it way too creepy. If you scroll through her videos you start to get a picture of a woman who who actually really loves food which is great but every individual video reads as totally joyless to me.
I don't think it is absurd to assume that someone is saying something about appearence and duty when they clearly spend hours obsessing over their appearence and do not crack a smile.
I struggle with both, for different reasons.
With the tradwife, I feel incredulous that she has her shit so together at 22 that she even knows how to make her own cheese in the first place, because I myself could barely scramble an egg at that point in life. I also wonder how much attention and love her children actually get as the stuff she does feels either labour intensive or detached, and neither scream "I am meeting my children's emotional needs." Saying that, there's nothing wrong with her making her own food, and her children will be getting a good start in life nutritionally speaking, which you have to respect on some level
Donut mum... Donut mum goes too far for me. Sure, we all have days when we give our kids food we probably shouldn't, but the way she presents it feels like her message is that this is what she does all the time, which isn't a good thing to promote. Her attitude is upsetting to me, not because I'm jealous - as I know some of the commenters suggest anyone that doesn't like her style is - but because I can't fathom the IDGAF attitude in relation to her children's health. I don't think it's something that should be applauded, and it's saddening to see so many people acting like she's done us all a favour by showing 'the reality.'
Spot on, as always!