I dunno, I appreciate many of the values they're sharing, and I'm a SAHM myself, but the influencer/monetization/fakiness of their social media kinda grosses me out. Like, are they truly enjoying their homestead/wild/outdoor lives if they're spending all their time creating content? Are their kids going to grow up feeling like commodities? And how is this actually an example of dropping out of capitalism? I'm all for investing in motherhood and family and home, but does it need to be so performative? I guess maybe this is only way they can afford to have the cottagecore life but it's a weird trade-off. 🤷
The longer you do it, the more punk rock it feels. 30 years next year of being a wife and mom, milking cows, breeding rabbits, roasting meats, skinning deer ;). It started with not being ready to go back to work and aiming to breastfeed into the second year. Ended with freebirths and placental encapsulation. And it has been so fun! Now i am a grandma who explores the woods with my little grandsons and lets them pet the new lambs :)
On second reading, I do want to say that I LOVE the fact that they (at least claim to) love being mothers. I really do, and I appreciate you pointing that out. But! As with all social media, there seems to be an undertone of "you can't be this happy unless you have this lifestyle/buy this product/move to a different place/blah blah blah". Where are the average, suburban, stay-at-home, mostly-failed-gardening, dino-nugget-microwaving, still-exceedingly-satisfied-with-mom-life, moms?
(PS Hit me up if you live in San Antonio so we can be friends IRL 🤣)
I think that's where the 2nd wave feminist movement went so wrong--feminism was equated with neoliberal career pursuits. We need a feminist movement that makes space for motherhood, career, neither, or both, to whatever degree each woman wants. We need a feminism fights for access of our basic needs so we have the autonomy to choose how we spend our lives and our time.
I think there's a huge range to what gets labeled "trad wives," some of it is countercultural and dismantling systems of oppression, and a lot of it is 100% reinforcing the current constructs.
I agree, escaping the debt-enslaved 40-hour work week 2-income household living paycheck to paycheck for homesteading and homeschooling and birthing your own community is punk rock af. 🤘
Having two kids under two while being a (mostly) SAHM was the most punk rock thing I've ever done and I'll do it again. 👏
I dunno, I appreciate many of the values they're sharing, and I'm a SAHM myself, but the influencer/monetization/fakiness of their social media kinda grosses me out. Like, are they truly enjoying their homestead/wild/outdoor lives if they're spending all their time creating content? Are their kids going to grow up feeling like commodities? And how is this actually an example of dropping out of capitalism? I'm all for investing in motherhood and family and home, but does it need to be so performative? I guess maybe this is only way they can afford to have the cottagecore life but it's a weird trade-off. 🤷
The longer you do it, the more punk rock it feels. 30 years next year of being a wife and mom, milking cows, breeding rabbits, roasting meats, skinning deer ;). It started with not being ready to go back to work and aiming to breastfeed into the second year. Ended with freebirths and placental encapsulation. And it has been so fun! Now i am a grandma who explores the woods with my little grandsons and lets them pet the new lambs :)
A glorious placenta pipeline
On second reading, I do want to say that I LOVE the fact that they (at least claim to) love being mothers. I really do, and I appreciate you pointing that out. But! As with all social media, there seems to be an undertone of "you can't be this happy unless you have this lifestyle/buy this product/move to a different place/blah blah blah". Where are the average, suburban, stay-at-home, mostly-failed-gardening, dino-nugget-microwaving, still-exceedingly-satisfied-with-mom-life, moms?
(PS Hit me up if you live in San Antonio so we can be friends IRL 🤣)
its 100% not dropping out of capitalism IMO! but it beats a desk job....
I think that's where the 2nd wave feminist movement went so wrong--feminism was equated with neoliberal career pursuits. We need a feminist movement that makes space for motherhood, career, neither, or both, to whatever degree each woman wants. We need a feminism fights for access of our basic needs so we have the autonomy to choose how we spend our lives and our time.
I think there's a huge range to what gets labeled "trad wives," some of it is countercultural and dismantling systems of oppression, and a lot of it is 100% reinforcing the current constructs.
I agree, escaping the debt-enslaved 40-hour work week 2-income household living paycheck to paycheck for homesteading and homeschooling and birthing your own community is punk rock af. 🤘
Tradwives put their babies second to their husbands.
Radical moms put their babies first.
That is a world of difference to me.
The "rad trad wife"
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Long May she rein 😂🙌🏼🙌🏼 I love this. It was always my dream but still working on that man making enough money 🥲