Dude, this whole thing makes me so sad. Of course, the kid misses out the most, but Paris doesn't realize that she's ALSO missing out hugely.
This attitude that kids are accessories and that being a mother is like a hat you can take on and off is an ick of mine. She IS a caricature but her mindset represents how the majority of modern mothers approach their duty. I wrote about this, maternal detachment and the crowd went wild, throwing tomatoes and ofc, attacking me...all for observing a phenomenon as a sociologist. So, the cognitive dissonance and denial is real.
This is one reason you'll find me lamenting over all the tech 'advancements' that Americans overuse and wrongfully prioritize. The vast majority of these gadgets are money pits that just help us all be lazier, more entitled and somewhat useless, IMO.
The crowd all went wild, throwing tomatoes 🍅 except me because it was/is very real to me.
Your post about maternal detachment led me to write more and heal more. Thank you 🙏
PS those women who deny that maternal detachment is harmful to women and babies are in fact….detached. They are an example of the very thing you are describing.
Yes!! Thank you for saying that. A small group of women (you included ofc 😊) just get it and will defend it cuz it’s a lived experience, not just an idea!
And I agree, the point was proven in the defensiveness of the detached moms.
Paris was not born to a surrogate herself, but she clearly missed out on that vital attachment that babies need for normal development. My guess is that she was raised by a series of nannies and caregivers who may have been paid well, but you can't pay someone to love your baby. She does not know how to be a mother because she never had one herself. (This is not any sort of excuse for her appalling neglect of her own children.)
Surrogacy is the deliberate creation of a new human to satisfy the wants of adults who don't care about the trauma this causes babies (and of course, who cares about the "gestational carriers"; they get paid, don't they?) I have written extensively about the many harms of surrogacy including here: https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/telling-it-like-it-is-without-the
This man spent his life studying the mother/baby dyad and he knew what causes maladjusted babies: https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/donald-woods-winnicott It's women like Paris who are happy with the role of "mother" in her play pretend life.
Paris Hilton has a real opportunity with her therapist in tow to address her own triggers and trauma. I hope she does, for the sake of the little boy who is a pawn in her life.
If she doesn’t, well, earned attachment is also a thing. I hope that the little boy is able to attach to a healthy person who knows how to nurture a baby.
Dude, this whole thing makes me so sad. Of course, the kid misses out the most, but Paris doesn't realize that she's ALSO missing out hugely.
This attitude that kids are accessories and that being a mother is like a hat you can take on and off is an ick of mine. She IS a caricature but her mindset represents how the majority of modern mothers approach their duty. I wrote about this, maternal detachment and the crowd went wild, throwing tomatoes and ofc, attacking me...all for observing a phenomenon as a sociologist. So, the cognitive dissonance and denial is real.
This is one reason you'll find me lamenting over all the tech 'advancements' that Americans overuse and wrongfully prioritize. The vast majority of these gadgets are money pits that just help us all be lazier, more entitled and somewhat useless, IMO.
The crowd all went wild, throwing tomatoes 🍅 except me because it was/is very real to me.
Your post about maternal detachment led me to write more and heal more. Thank you 🙏
PS those women who deny that maternal detachment is harmful to women and babies are in fact….detached. They are an example of the very thing you are describing.
Yes!! Thank you for saying that. A small group of women (you included ofc 😊) just get it and will defend it cuz it’s a lived experience, not just an idea!
And I agree, the point was proven in the defensiveness of the detached moms.
Yes ma’am! I get it. Our kids are better for it!
What article was this? I’d love to read yours
Paris was not born to a surrogate herself, but she clearly missed out on that vital attachment that babies need for normal development. My guess is that she was raised by a series of nannies and caregivers who may have been paid well, but you can't pay someone to love your baby. She does not know how to be a mother because she never had one herself. (This is not any sort of excuse for her appalling neglect of her own children.)
Surrogacy is the deliberate creation of a new human to satisfy the wants of adults who don't care about the trauma this causes babies (and of course, who cares about the "gestational carriers"; they get paid, don't they?) I have written extensively about the many harms of surrogacy including here: https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/telling-it-like-it-is-without-the
This man spent his life studying the mother/baby dyad and he knew what causes maladjusted babies: https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/donald-woods-winnicott It's women like Paris who are happy with the role of "mother" in her play pretend life.
THIS IS BANANA BONKERS HOLY SHIT
Paris Hilton has a real opportunity with her therapist in tow to address her own triggers and trauma. I hope she does, for the sake of the little boy who is a pawn in her life.
If she doesn’t, well, earned attachment is also a thing. I hope that the little boy is able to attach to a healthy person who knows how to nurture a baby.