Excellent analysis as usual, ya'll. I do want to share that my third was hardly ever in a container and needed tons of PT for gross motor stuff. She just naturally has low tone, is an overthinker (already lol), and just doesn't wanna;) It's pretty chill. Most (all?) states have a birth-3 program where a therapist will come to your home weekly. No cost. And she's super cool - I'm like friends with her now, ha! It's not a big deal to get some support for your little one if it's needed and it doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
Let the babies be free, though, absolutely. I love the RIE philosophy of early childcare.
You know that famous picture that's like "what line is longest" and the only way to get it right is to know that it is an illusion/trick question? And how people are so used to tests like that that you can give people a picture with 3 lines of clearly different lengths, no illusion, and they'll pick the wrong line because they think it's an illusion test?
Testing culture has given us the idea that the truth is something obscure that we just have to memorize. The iq test was actually developed to prove that Africans were less intelligent than Europeans and gain support for slavery. Most people's initial reaction to chattel slavery in Africa was wow--this is horrible. So a whole new philosophy of intelligence was invented to convince the public it was actually okay. And now, we're taught that it was a different time and people just didn't know better. You can't judge them by "today's standards". But of course there were always abolitionists because the truth is OBVIOUS.
When you say breastmilk is best for a baby or that sleep training is harmful, people are so quick to cut in with "actually, that's a myth." What does myth mean here? Who came up with the word "myth"? These are clearly memorized truths. A study that looks at like, the kindergarten report cards of sleep trained babies cannot convince me that they are holistically just as healthy as babies who are held all night because I have a baby. I see the impact that secure attachment and restful sleep have on his personality. And why wouldn't they? Why would I let someone tell me that better quality sleep doesn't have long term positive effects on my baby's neurological development? Because I don't want to look like an idiot who believes in intuitive truths? Because I need to regurgitate what I've been taught so people know I understand what we have decided, culturally, is "truth"?
All this to say, I'm trying to understand why people are acting shocked that containers aren't good for babies. Like... yeah... if you sat in a bumbo all day, how would you feel? Would you experience loss of coordination and brain fog? Would your muscles good? How would that feel, every day? How might taht feeling impact a baby, who is supposed to be GROWING, differently than an adult? It's intuitively obvious. (I think it's also, sadly, obvious if you've met a bucket baby.) But no one wants to look foolish by using their own basic intuition and critical thinking skills. It's all about knowing the cultural "consensus" and repeating that.
Excellent analysis as usual, ya'll. I do want to share that my third was hardly ever in a container and needed tons of PT for gross motor stuff. She just naturally has low tone, is an overthinker (already lol), and just doesn't wanna;) It's pretty chill. Most (all?) states have a birth-3 program where a therapist will come to your home weekly. No cost. And she's super cool - I'm like friends with her now, ha! It's not a big deal to get some support for your little one if it's needed and it doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
Let the babies be free, though, absolutely. I love the RIE philosophy of early childcare.
You know that famous picture that's like "what line is longest" and the only way to get it right is to know that it is an illusion/trick question? And how people are so used to tests like that that you can give people a picture with 3 lines of clearly different lengths, no illusion, and they'll pick the wrong line because they think it's an illusion test?
Testing culture has given us the idea that the truth is something obscure that we just have to memorize. The iq test was actually developed to prove that Africans were less intelligent than Europeans and gain support for slavery. Most people's initial reaction to chattel slavery in Africa was wow--this is horrible. So a whole new philosophy of intelligence was invented to convince the public it was actually okay. And now, we're taught that it was a different time and people just didn't know better. You can't judge them by "today's standards". But of course there were always abolitionists because the truth is OBVIOUS.
When you say breastmilk is best for a baby or that sleep training is harmful, people are so quick to cut in with "actually, that's a myth." What does myth mean here? Who came up with the word "myth"? These are clearly memorized truths. A study that looks at like, the kindergarten report cards of sleep trained babies cannot convince me that they are holistically just as healthy as babies who are held all night because I have a baby. I see the impact that secure attachment and restful sleep have on his personality. And why wouldn't they? Why would I let someone tell me that better quality sleep doesn't have long term positive effects on my baby's neurological development? Because I don't want to look like an idiot who believes in intuitive truths? Because I need to regurgitate what I've been taught so people know I understand what we have decided, culturally, is "truth"?
All this to say, I'm trying to understand why people are acting shocked that containers aren't good for babies. Like... yeah... if you sat in a bumbo all day, how would you feel? Would you experience loss of coordination and brain fog? Would your muscles good? How would that feel, every day? How might taht feeling impact a baby, who is supposed to be GROWING, differently than an adult? It's intuitively obvious. (I think it's also, sadly, obvious if you've met a bucket baby.) But no one wants to look foolish by using their own basic intuition and critical thinking skills. It's all about knowing the cultural "consensus" and repeating that.