Radical Mom Advice for Grievances and Complaints: Your Mother in Law

We are stewards of the dyad and of YOUR FEEEEELINGS.

It’s not all fire-breathing indoctrination and Paris Hilton analysis around here. We love telling other people what to do too! We’re bringing all that sagely village wisdom and right to your inbox. For our inaugural advice/vent sesh/recrimination column, we talk about the woman who gave birth to your husband.

My Mother in Law is Barely Involved in Our Kids Lives Even though We Want Her to Be!

So we live in the same town, she’s nearly 15 minutes away. She has came over twice total of time in 2.5 years. Once for the birth of our baby girl about 1 month old for 15-20 minutes and second for our twin babies at 3 months old for like 5 minutes. She has never offered support during postpartum in any stage, nothing at all. She believes we need to visit her instead of obviously her being able to get up and visit us given now that we have twins and a toddler. With our first baby, we obviously did all the visits but now with twins, it’s impossible. I really would love to have a relationship with her but it seems as if they don’t care to have a relationship with her grandchildren. Why do we have to be the ones to visit and she can’t make the trip. Retired, does nothing at all. It’s crazy.